The Best Way To Approach Women – The Eye Contact Technique

Exactly how do you know if a woman is open to your approach? This is the issue of each and every single guy on earth and probably also the greatest fear that has cursed man since eve ate that stupid apple. Manly men say they’d rather go to war than deal with the possible rejection of a girl. So exactly what is it about approaching a woman and rejection that makes grown men weep and piss their pants? Also, what IS the very best method to approach a girl?

The reason approaching a woman is so scary is because of the extreme amount of uncertainty entailed. When you see a pretty woman and consider speaking to her, what runs through your nervous little brain?

  • Does she have a husband?
  • Will she think I’m attractive?
  • Probably she’s too busy to date anybody.
  • Will she be responsive to me talking to her?
  • What if she feels I’m ugly / fat / geeky / dumb / old / desperate / creepy?

Uncertainty

I’m sure you can think of a lot more things that run through your brain when you see an approach opportunity come your way. If you get scared or nervous when this takes place, it’s because of one thing: UNCERTAINTY.

You don’t know how the girl you intend to approach is going to respond! So you’re terrified because the result could be negative and you get the dreaded REJECTION!

Well, stress over this no more, because there is a technique you can apply so you’ll never have to stress over a negative reaction again. This million dollar strategy that you will learn for free is:

The powerful eye contact

All of us know that eye contact is important, but something funny happens when we make eye contact with another person. We end up being COMPELLED to react to them in some fashion.

Unbelievable? Try this test: Go up to a complete stranger (a guy) make eye contact and extend your hand for a handshake. Unless the complete stranger is a psycho, he WILL take your hand ans shake it. This is the power of eye contact. You can basically compel somebody to do exactly what you want by establishing eye contact.

When it comes to girls, you can utilize this same eye contact to find out if she’s open to talking to you. In fact, you can make it so that the woman become compelled to OPEN YOU!

The Eye Contact Method

The next time you see a woman you want to approach, LOCK your eyes on her! Seriously, just stare at her eyes, even if she’s not looking at yours.

When women are out and about, they will typically look around to keep aware of their environment. This is an unconscious thing we all do. Ultimately, the girl you’re locking onto will look around and scan her surroundings.

When her scan goes to you, her eyes will eventually meet yours, and you’ll be locked in eye contact. Once that happens, simply smile at her. If she smiles back, guess what? She’s open to you approaching her.

If she smiles back, say “Hey!” And if she replies, it’s game start!

Go right into your opener, establish a connection, display high value, make her laugh, neg her, etc.. All the usual PUA game.

Made particularly for low key circumstances!

This technique works especially well in low-key circumstances like grocery shops, cafes, book shops, etc. where you may feel like a creep trying to pick up on a girl. And the best part is, after you give her a winning smile, the girl herself might say “Hello!” and initiate contact and open you.

This is among the best methods to approach girls and has never failed me yet! So the next time you’re out, try this on every pretty woman you see. Simply Lock your eyes onto them like a sniper scope and see exactly what happens. I promise you, you’ll be surprised by the nice results. Just make sure you do not gawk and drool like a creep!

Are Life Stresses Killing Your Relationship?

The stress of everyday life can take its toll on any intimate relationship. We are all hurried and over-scheduled most of the time these days. Between running back and forth to our jobs, and running our children to and from soccer practice, ballet, or karate, etc., it can become very frustrating when you are wanting to keep your intimate relationship solid. Aside from the hurried schedule of life, there are many other life stresses that can take a toll on your relationship with your life partner.

Simple issues like money problems, dealing with complications from previous relationships, and raising children, can wreak havoc in an intimate relationship. It’s very easy to turn away from each other when dealing with these type of issues. Some people simply go inward and refuse to talk about anything while others may turn to someone else. This is how many cases of infidelity start. The partners are unable or unwilling to talk to each other about the major issues at hand, so they turn to someone else who seems to have a more understanding ear.

It’s very important to remember you must turn to each other when there are problems helping to bring trauma to your relationship. These life stresses may be completely outside of the relationship and outside of your control, but that doesn’t mean they don’t add undue stress to your relationship. Sometimes it can be simple things within the household that are causing a rift. For instance, if there is one party who doesn’t help around the house. Even though this seems like such a simple issue, it can add up over time helping one of the partners to feel very resentful.

Partners should sit down from time to time to air out any issues that are starting to fester. You don’t want these issues to chip away at your relationship. Take time to communicate openly with your partner about what’s really bothering you. Even if the issues are outside of your relationship, let them know how much stress it is putting you under. Maybe there is something they can do to help you, to support you. For instance, if you feel like you’re being rushed every day because you’re carrying the kids back and forth to their activities, maybe your partner could take some of that load off of your daily schedule.

Remember your relationship is supposed to be the happy part of your life, the best part of your life. Your partner is called your partner for a reason. This is the person you have chosen to spend your life with, so let them help you when stresses are getting you down.

Are you having problems dealing with stress? How is this affecting your intimate relationship? Have a look and see what destructive emotions are at the heart of the problems you are experiencing? Think about what you are really telling yourself and look at your beliefs.

How To Tell If He’s Interested

Around 85 per cent of couples who just had their first dates remarked that before they were even introduced they were already sending signs of attention and interest to each other. These are couples that did not come from first dates, rather, tried to communicate first and see if they click. It usually begins when either one of them making contact with the eyes, a hint of interest floating in the air.

The big question is: How does a girl find out if a guy is showing interest in her? Basically, that question is also answered by a set of questions. Is the guy responding when there is an attempt for conversation? Does he return back the smiles? Is he showing any flirtatious signs? Enough imagining the past girl, there are tell tale signs to look for to know if a guy has really the hots for a girl. A guy is interested in a girl if:

He gazes at the girl’s eyes longer and more intently than he would when talking to others. The trick is to make eye contact for a short time, then he looks back again and this time longer, lastly, he turns his head to the girl’s direction but not looking at her directly. From the side of his eyes, he’s actually checking if the girl is still looking back or waiting for him to gaze at her again.

He is showing more engaged actions when just trying to show or reach for something; he leans forward when he talks to girl or just when listening for her to say something. He touches the girl’s hand when stressing a point while talking. Even imitates the girls actions and gestures while making a conversation and perhaps to lessen edginess he amuses himself with touching his earring, blending his coffee, playing with a part of his clothing, fixing the hair, etc. He makes sure he looks his best when the girl approaches

He uses flattering comments and mixes humor to everything he says just to see the girl’s smile with a beam whenever he talks to the girl, well, appreciates even the girl’s silly jokes.

He asks detailed questions, as these exhibits curiosity specifically with the girl. Even when he’s not present, his friends often pay attention to the girl’s moves and whatever she says. This is a sign that the guy has already talked about the girl too many times with his friends, arousing their interest in the girl too. Shows himself off by helping others with carrying extra bags for other persons. Take note: this is done when he knows that the girl can see him.

It is kind of hard to read all the signs, so here’s a summary for girls who do not have all the time to be keen with the signs:

1. Lifting of Eyebrows. A guy’s eyebrows rise and fall quickly upon seeing an interesting girl for the first time. (Hey girl, lift a brow if you’re interested too.)

2. Slight jaw drop. It may not be a nice sight, but the mouth slightly opens during first acquaintance.

3. Seeks attention. Guys have the tendency to be over acting just to stand out and get the girl’s attention.

4. The nose. Take a closer look girl; notice that as his face beams, the nostrils get big.

5. Strikes a pose. After gaining composure he budges into the typical machismo guy position with parted legs, one hand on the side and probably the other in a pocket.

6. He becomes self-conscious. This will be touching his forehead, pinching an ear, or rubbing the chin.

7. Fashion conscious. It starts with smoothing the shirt or pants along with the collar and the belt. On more formal occasions, it will be fixing the tie.

8. Secret friend. He would use the starting statement “one of my buddies want to know if you…” Oh, he’s just trying to play secret admirer dear.

9. Aside from the raised brows during first meeting, a guy exaggerates arching both eyebrows while saying something.

10. Lastly, the killer sock fiddling. Not familiar? Believe or not 99.9 per cent of psychological studies confirmed that if a guy adjusts his socks in front of a girl, he is so interested in her.

Please note that the effectiveness of these acts differ from person to person. That is because each individual may come from communities with a more traditional or contemporary views. Final word, just enjoy and see if someday, real love may be derived from first signs.

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Communication In Romance

Romance. Can it be discussed? It has to be experienced, isn’t it? But, let us talk of romance, because we cannot avoid discussion about it. Let those in love, decide how correct is the below discussion on communication in romance. Romancing is not a science, but an art. When you talk to your beloved, you talk not only with your words, but with your eyes and your body
language.

Everything takes part in communication with your sweetheart. How does one talk to one’s beloved? Most of the lovers swoon at the sight of their beloved. How do we expect them to talk? But their sweetheart wants to talk and they want to talk. They both want to share everything in each other’s life. They share their dreams, they share their agonies and pains and they share their goals and failures. They share everything, because they are two bodies, but one heart.

Romance has its own flavor, a different flavor. Romance is a different emotion compared to all other emotions. It’s much different compared to emotions such as anger etc. They are all negative, but romance is a positive emotion or feeling. In romance, one ignores every fault of his/her sweetheart and only finds everything good and glorifies it. In love, the afternoon sun is as beautiful as the sunset. Such is the wonder of romance that it changes a person totally.

Coming back to communication, how does one do it in romance? Does one convey love every single day? Does one talk only of love and nothing else. Otherwise it may kill the romantic mood! Does one only dream of good things and avoid every talk of anything negative? What and how does one communicate while romancing? Yes, it is true that most of the romantic lovers talk only of positive things and avoid everything negative. It is also true that talk is mostly about love, because they are romancing. Isn’t it? It is true that the couples dream of great things and avoid contemplating any negatives.

Romance is different. In romancing there is no place for anything that may kill the mood. Romance means talking of moon, and not the sun. But you can talk of sunsets. Romance does not think about the fate of fallen flowers, but only admires the beauty of flowers smiling on the branch. Romance is different and it is great. The world already has innumerable problems,
and romance is much needed to create a positive atmosphere. Romance is a dream.

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Meditation Can Help

Meditation is one of the most important spiritual disciplines. The benefits of regular meditation are numerous, too many to list, yet peace of mind is one of the greatest.

Avoid all drugs. Even “just” marijuana “only once in a while” hinders intuition and clouds your mind for weeks afterwards.
Try meditating with someone you love or with a group of friends. The combined energy will help you go deeper.
You may be sensitive to something you’re eating or drinking. Pick a day and eat lightly, perhaps about half of what you usually do. Consume what you know will be easy to digest, such as lightly steamed vegetables.

You should be able to focus more easily provided you feel lighter and more alert.
Certain supplements, herbs, and medications, especially if they affect your mood, may be disagreeing with your system and causing you to be scattered. Ask your doctor or health professional for alternative recommendations or if you can do without them for a while. If you keep asking God or your guides or angels of the Light how you can be more successful with meditation, you’ll eventually become aware of effective ways to go deeper and focus better.

You’ll be a pro in no time.
If you’re still having trouble perceiving anything, jump start the process by using your imagination. Tell yourself you’ll perceive the first image, thought, or feeling, in response to any of the questions or instructions in the script, on the count of three. Then count one, two, three and provide a picture or thought from your imagination or memory. Continue this process until other images that feel more related to the issue you are exploring start filtering into your mind.

Try relaxing music. Experiment with different kinds to test which works best for you.
Whatever works the best for you is what you should be thinking of trying out. Meditation can change your life for the better and once you begin feeling better you will know that you definitely made the best choices by choosing this to help you along the way throughout this difficult life.

Learn more about meditation the next chance that you can because your life will be ever changing because of it. There is more to be learned about it even to this day. Things are going to be different in your life and meditation can be the reason for your healing and becoming a much more positive person that is happier and healthier.

The internet is the best place to locate information about meditation, and there are many wonderful websites that could provide you with tons of information.

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Communication and the Male-Female Interpretations

Unfortunately, the simple act of communicating with one another can lead to confused messages, or messages being missed entirely. This is especially true when it comes to communication between men and women. It’s no wonder there’s conflict, when they interpret the same conversation in different ways. This is because of the different conversational styles of men and women.

Many examples will stereotype male/female responses. There are many exceptions to the examples I’ve identified. Analyze how you feel or respond to situations; compare them to those described, and decide if you need to change anything in your communication style.

As women grow up, talk is the thread from which relationships are woven. They develop and maintain friendships by exchanging secrets, and regard talking as the cornerstone of friendships. Men bond as intensely as women, but their friendships are based more on doing things together and don’t require talk to cement relationships. Men are more prone to negotiate status; women to create rapports. Men are comfortable telling people what to do; sometimes women don’t like to pull rank, so they request, which can lead a man to believe they have the right to accept or refuse the woman’s request.

When conversing, women face each other directly, with eyes anchored on each others face. Men sit at angles to each other and look elsewhere in the room-periodically glancing at each other and often mirror each other body movements. Men have a tendency to face away from them when conversing gives women the impression that the men aren’t listening to them, when in fact they are. The only time men will really look for any length of time at the person who’s speaking is when they’re trying to evaluate whether the speaker is lying or not; if the speaker is hostile and they may have to take defensive action; or they’re evaluating an attractive woman. In this last case, they’ll glance over the woman’s body while listening to her comments. This is highly distracting to the female speaker because the man’s eyes mirror that he’s not really listening to what she’s saying, but rather sizing her up as a woman.

Another habit that gives women the impression men aren’t listening is that they switch topics more often. Women tend to talk at length about one topic; men tend to jump from topic to topic. When a woman expresses her point of view, her female listener usually expresses agreement and support, whereas men point out the other side of the issue. Women see this as disloyalty and a refusal to offer support to their ideas. Women prefer other points of view expressed as suggestions and inquiries, rather than as direct challenges or arguments. Most men are more comfortable with an oppositional style.

Men expect silent attention and interpret constant listener noise as signs of impatience on the listeners’ part. When men don’t make listening noises, women may assume they’re not listening to them. Women make more listening noises such as “uh-huh …” to encourage the other person. Men often believe these noises mean the woman agrees with him, when she may not agree with him at all. Because men don’t make as many listening noises, women assume they’re not really listening. Men are also less likely to make non-verbal signs of listening, and many continue doing whatever they were doing before the conversation began.

Women are more likely to nod their head more, give direct eye contact, and stop whatever else they may have been doing when the conversation began.

Women often overlap and finish each the other person’s sentences (normally, neither is offended). However, some men can clam up or react defensively when women do this, because they may feel that the woman is trying to take over the conversation.

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Improve Your Relationships By Loving Yourself

Many of us, especially women, tend to put others’ needs before our own. We neglect ourselves and eventually resent those who have been on the receiving end of our love and attention. What we fail to realize is the importance of putting ourselves first. No, it is not selfish. In fact, it’s impossible to meet the needs of others effectively without first being balanced in our own lives. Loving yourself will not only prove to be a positive experience, but it will improve your relationships with others as well.

If we go through our days neglecting our basic needs, we will become very quickly drained of our energy, too exhausted to spend any time on ourselves. When we realize that our own needs are not being met, we become resentful and ultimately withdraw the help and support we so freely offered to others before. However, by focusing on putting ourselves first, we can regain that lost energy, which will give us endless vitality to direct toward others.

Loving and taking better care of yourself is easy if you implement one or more of the simple helpful tips and ideas listed here. When we are happy with the level of attention we are giving ourselves, our energy overflows and we are anxious to help fulfill the needs of those around us. Everyone wins when we learn to love ourselves. Use the following tips to get you started:

Live a healthy lifestyle – How can we expect to accomplish great things if we cannot meet life’s most basic needs? Eat healthy by replacing excess sugar and refined foods with whole foods and lots of water. Give your body the ability to effectively burn the fuel you take in by getting daily exercise, thereby increasing your metabolism. Make sure to get plenty of sleep as well, as our minds do not fully function if they haven’t been allowed to properly recharge themselves.

Express yourself – One of the best ways to take care of ourselves mentally is by frequently expressing how we feel. This can be done in several ways. Mentally, we can express ourselves on paper. Keeping a personal journal in which you can vent when needed will help keep emotions in check. Creative expression is important too, such as allowing yourself to feel and experience the wide range of emotions in a rented movie, or by working on a hobby that’s close to your heart. Photography and other visual arts are good for this. Remember, expressing ourselves creatively is as important as doing so mentally.

Spend some time alone – In order to appreciate ourselves more, we should get to know ourselves better. Some of you may think this will have the reverse effect, but think positively! You would be surprised what becoming introspective will reveal. Discover yourself and learn to love it. Go for a scenic drive. Take a long bath. Surround yourself with music or just quietly meditate. Not only will you appreciate your own company more, but the relaxation will do wonders for your state of mind. Your relationships are sure to improve if others sense your renewed energy and love of life.

Pamper yourself – Finally, take the time to treat yourself to something rewarding. Get a massage, a manicure, or tickets to your favorite sporting event. Show yourself you care about your own happiness by creating more of it in your life. By allowing yourself to enjoy the spotlight now and again, you’ll realize the goodness others feel when you are able to help them.

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Building a Romance Bridge

Ever run into a brick wall, so to speak, with your mate? Can’t seem to pass “Go” without collecting 200 fresh wounds? Well, it’s time to build a bridge and tear down that brick wall. Here are your tools:

ATTITUDE – Get an attitude adjustment first. Lighten up and do a 180-degree about face. Read the Sunday comics, grab an old comic book, turn on the Comedy channel, watch funny videos or DVDs. Get in a better mood and pass it along to your mate. Invite your mate to tune in to comedy with you, too.

FRIENDSHIP – Go back to being friends for starters now that you’re in a good mood. Forget the love stuff, if you want. And just focus on being good friends; share compliments, do things for one another, go out and have fun together, enjoy one another’s company.

RELAX – Let your hair down. Trust and relax. Be yourself. Don’t let old wounds open or fester. Forget the garbage memories and just be in the here and now together.

TIME OUT – If possible, spend extra time together for awhile, like during your original courting days. Hire a sitter, order out, eat at fast food places, grab ice cream cones and go for walks in the park. Get to know each other all over again. That’s the key. Then you’ll remember why you fell for each other in the beginning and history will hopefully repeat itself.

COMMUNICATION – Take it slow and easy. Keep away from subjects that you don’t agree upon. And slowly re-learn to communicate with each other all over again. If necessary, and it’s not a crime or shame – get help. Seek a trusted friend or adviser, a church clergy member or certified professional counselor. No need to go it alone. Find your weak areas and how to over come them and plan for future communication difficulties.

GOALS – Gradually develop goals together so you’ll have a direction to head. Write them down in a notebook just for the two of you. And over time, develop them, revise them, cross them off your list. The idea is to HAVE goals together and work towards a common goal.

SCRAP BOOK – Create a memory album together. Add photos, clippings, menus and anything that reminds you of the “good times.” Then when tough times comes, you’ll have something to “hold on to” – your bridge to romance.

So don’t just sit back and sulk. Take short steps to improve your relationships and let life’s problems magically pass by while you hold on to your relationship.

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Can Former Lovers be Just Good Friends?

Can you be good friends with an ex-lover? Firstly, the word ‘lover’ has many connotations and the answer may be different for a one-night stand. But what I believe if it’s someone who spent a substantial portion of his/her life with, someone who have had a good relationship with, based on shared values, ideas and emotions, a healthy friendship is definitely possible even after they are no longer involved. This is possible because every relationship evolves. If both people concerned have the same level of understanding that they did when they were lovers, it can be used to establish a stable friendship. Of course, if there’s any negativity from either side, being friends may not be possible, and that’s sad.

When a man and woman relate, there’s always a part that is sexual, small though it may be. In most relationships, you tend to suppress the attraction. But when you’re friends with an ex, it’s much easier to understand and accept this attraction as you’ve already experienced all there was to experience. In some cases, one person may feel it more than the other, but either way. I think it’s much easier to talk such residual attraction through, as you both share a certain level of comfort. Communication is the basis of any relationship.

Even when you and your ex have new love interests in your life, communication is still the key. I believe, for the new relationship to work, you cannot hide your past. The attempt should be not to do things that you need to hide. And you have to resolve the level of importance you want to give your current lover and your ex. Your partner may be insecure, but then we’re insecure about so many things in our life. For example, people do compromise their careers for their relationship. So you have to either talk things through with your partner or compromise on your friendship.

As for whether an ex can be a platonic friend who can casually rib you about your present relationship or relate well with your current lover, it’s all about the different levels of sensitivity that various people display. The dynamics between your friend, your lover and you will play out according to each person’s position in your respective relationships.

I don’t think prespectives change depending on your gender. It’s about what you believe is right and wrong. If the other person has had a very similar upbringing (although that would be rare), he or she is likely to emote, perceive situations, react and resolve issues just like you would.

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How To Keep The Love Alive In Your Relationship

Some believe that romance should just come naturally, and if it doesn’t, or if the original closeness that existed in a relationship starts to subside, it means that something is wrong. Nothing is further from the truth. Keeping love alive requires time, attention and the willingness to keep things fresh and learn how to constantly reconnect. Here are some steps that will help us reconnect with our partners, and keep the love alive.

Step 1: Give up dead routines

After the initial excitement of being together is over, many fall into a routine and begin taking one another for granted. They assume they know what their partner is feeling, that it doesn’t matter if they come late for a date, don’t look as good as they used to, or decide to spend more and more time out with friends. However, it is crucial to realize that there are many small ways in which we sabotage relationships. Unless two people feel cared for and valued by one another, it is easy for the feelings of love to fade away.

Break into routines. Snap out of ruts. Take time to plan exciting, romantic, delicious times to spend together. Even if it’s just for a little while. Dedicate time to the relationship that nothing can interrupt. This is a sacred time for the two of you, and during it do what makes both of you feel most fulfilled.

Step 2: Take Charge of How You Perceive Your Partner Each Day

The good feelings between partners are often heightened by the way in which they view one another. Do you view him as a hero? Someone you can look up to and respect? Or are you mostly dwelling upon his/her faults? After a relationship has gone on for a while it is easy to begin to view one another as ordinary. This is a sure-fire technique for putting out any fire that might exist. Remember, when you first fell in love, you only saw the best about that person and focused on how wonderful they were. If you want to keep the love alive, keep that going consciously.

Here are two exercises to do to help. Get a personal notebook to record your experiences and feelings in. Read it from time to time. Dedicated a certain time each day to the relationship and what is possible between the two of you.

Exercise A – How You See Your Partner

Take some time and write down a description of how you see your partner. Who is he/she to you now? How do you feel about him? Write this down without censoring your thoughts and feelings.

Then, write down how you saw him when you first met, and how you felt about him then. See how your feelings of closeness are affected by the way you are perceiving the person today. Realize that how you perceive a person is totally within your control. You can have the most beautiful person in front of you, but if you do not see it, it is of no avail.

Consciously view your partner in a way that is similar to the way you did in the beginning. They will feel the effects of this, and begin responding in kind.

Exercise B – Stop Pushing Him/Her Away

There are many, little things we do (consciously and unconsciously) that push our partners away. Many are afraid of intimacy and do a great deal to short circuit it. Take a little while to write down ways in which you push him/her away. This is not to blame yourself, but to become aware of the times when you are not actually inviting closeness, but putting on the brakes.

Now, decide to change the way you behave. Each day take one item on your list (the way you’ve pushed him away) and do the opposite. For example, rather than criticizing him in public, say nice things about him with friends. A few small actions can have huge effects. .

Step 2: Understanding Hidden Expectations

There is nothing that can cause us to disconnect from each other as much as expectations that have been unfulfilled. We all enter relationships with many kinds of expectations and dreams, some we are aware of, others not. There is nothing that causes more disappointment than our expectations which are not being met.

Take a moment to become aware of what you are expecting of your partner. Is it possible for him to fulfill these expectations Does he want the same thing from the relationship?

More often than not, it is our unfulfilled expectations, not the other person, which make us upset. In order to feel close and satisfied in a relationship, a crucial step is making sure your expectations can be met. See how your expectations align with the person you’re with. Also take time to see if anyone can fulfill them? Are these expectations realistic or simply childhood dreams you are still carrying with you?

Exercise C — Letting Him Fulfill Your Dreams

Become aware off which expectations of yours your partner does meet. Now see if you are willing to be satisfied with that. Can you find a way to feel grateful for what you are receiving? Sometimes just deciding that what your partner offers is good enough, can allow the love to re-ignite once again.
Then, let him know that he’s making you happy. Most people have a deep need to know and to hear that they are meaningful to you.

Step 6: Re-Choose Your Partner

When these steps are taken, you will not only be more connected, but you will be with your partner because there is no other place you want to be. The relationship will not be one of convenience, but one of choice. The actual act of re-choosing our partners, of knowing they are the one’s we want to be with, is the culmination of the reconnecting and romance we’ve found.

Sometimes it is very beautiful to make this process conscious. You can write down and express the ways in which you wish to recommit to your partner, you can write down and express the aspects of them that cause you to feel this way. By doing this on an on-going basis, we not only keep the love and relationship fresh, but we keep ourselves aware of why we are with the person, what our part is in the relationship, and the joy and romance that is possible for us to have forever.

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